Saturday, May 30, 2009

Eureka moment

I have been so busy with another class, blackboard, reading for this class, and dealing with some personal issues that I have not had time to consider an eureka moment. Gender brings to mind, however, that sometimes being treated differently is not so bad. For instance, a couple of weeks ago I went into a convenience store to get 6, 1/2 gallon drinks for a classroom party we were having that afternoon. I came to the counter carrying all 6 containers and both cashiers were waiting on two other gentlemen. They turned around and saw me and one man quickly moved his things out of the way so I could put some of my drinks down as the other approached me and took a couple containers off me and placed them on the counter for me. As I was leaving they opened the door for me and even asked if I needed any help. I do not think they would have done this if a were another male.
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  1. Robin DavisMay 31, 2009 at 5:04 PM

    Joan --

    By the way, congratulations on your accomplishments - I hope to be there soon.

    Robin

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  2. Taran GJune 2, 2009 at 11:48 AM

    Joan -

    I am SO happy you mentioned this. I don't mean this in anyway to offend feminists or anyone, but I feel that that is definitely a perk to being a woman. Now i have heard some women say 'I hate when men open doors for me, are you implying that I am not strong enough to open the door for myself?' - I just feel like views such as this are so negative. It almost seems like they are trying to make it so that men cannot do ANYTHING good/right/unbiased. Chivalry is a lost art now a days, and I wonder if it is for this specific reason. I can understand womens rights and equality and the need to feel included and respected, but in my opinion, a man isn't thinking, let me take this bottle of soda because she looks like shes weak and might break an arm. I have one younger brother, he is the only boy in the family other than my father. He has two older sisters, myself, and my younger sister and my mother. He is extremely polite and courteous to women and girls his age, perhaps because of the fact of us three being around him all of the time. I know for a fact that when he does something such as opening a door or helping a girl or woman, he is doing it because he feels it is polite, nice, and respectful. I know that if i saw a man open a door for a woman and the woman rejected with an accusation of degration i would most certainly say something. In reality not ALL men are sexist or shovanistic, some are hoenstly trying to be gentlemen, and I think the more we discourage men from this, the less frequently men will be willing to do nice things, for that simple reason - being nice.
    -Taran

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